Monday, December 31, 2012

The End Of Men? Hardly

You sometimes hear about the decline of men and the rise of women. There was even a book written recently entitled The End of Men: And the Rise of Women, by Hanna Rosin. I haven't read it so I won't comment on it. But regardless, there are sobering statistics out there showing that men, at least in this part of the world, are in social, economic, and even physical decline. Sometimes these statistics are brought up, by women usually, with almost a sort of triumphant glee: "Woohoo, men are on the decline. Women are on the rise. Go Girl Power!"

This decline is certainly a problem which must be addressed, for the benefit of both sexes. As Warren Farrell frequently says, when one sex wins both sexes lose. Women cannot progress past men in an unlimited way, and men can't keep declining in an unlimited way, without serious problems resulting for both sexes. It is ideological stupidity to ignore the decline of either sex since both sexes are interconnected in a myriad of ways.

I do find it somewhat amusing how some will suggest that women will overtake men in social and economic standing in a new world setting, with the further implication that men will become irrelevant. Anyone who can look past this ideological chest beating will realize quite plainly that men are an integral part of society, and are in fact the builders of society. Call me sexist if you want but if you look around who do you see on construction sites? Who are the technological innovators? Who fixes your car when it breaks down? Who fixes your leaky plumbing? Who collects your garbage and recycling? Who does repairs on the electrical grid when there is a power failure? Who does almost all the dirty and dangerous jobs that modern society needs to keep functioning? Now, to be fair, women certainly are capable of doing these things, but in a proportional sense very few do. You can try refuting me by citing examples where women do these jobs and try dominating the discussion with those few exceptions and hence try to prove me wrong that way, but the fact remains that it is almost always men who do the dirty, dangerous, and physically demanding jobs.

And let's not forget the role men play in the "prestigious" white collar roles. They comprise most of the roles as lawmakers, bosses, managers, engineers, etc. In the hard sciences you have mostly men.

For women to truly blow past men they would have to start occupying these roles in much greater numbers. But I don't think they will, given that the door has been open for decades now and women still choose not to do certain jobs, en masse. Warren Farrell has said that women would have to be paid much more than men to do certain jobs, like trash collector, which would mean higher taxes for everyone.

But for the sake of argument, let's say women will overtake men and men will truly become less relevant. But we still need society to keep functioning. The dirty, dangerous, physically difficult jobs still need to be done, and they will have to be done almost entirely by men. In this case only one scenario is possible:

Men will build and maintain the cities that women will rule the world in.

Yes, that sounds about right. Men will just willingly relegate themselves to working in the shadows, behind the scenes, running the much needed machinery of society, while women take the spotlight as the superior gender. Yes, I'm sure that some men will probably be okay with that. White Knights are not a rare breed, after all. But you can't count on all men to do that. Many will refuse to play the role of a (traditional) provider and protector, but with lower status. It is delusion to think otherwise. This quest that modern feminists have to gain superiority over men can only happen with the support of other men.

So I think now you see my reluctance to accept the notion held by some that women will overtake men and men will become irrelevant. If that ever happens, society as we know it would cease to function.

Let's look at this more closely. In order to carry out their misandrist agendas, radical feminists need the help of men to provide the "muscle". To undermine, trample, and gain ultimate superiority over men, these women need the help of men. You have to admit, there's a huge irony there, and it cannot possibly work since a man who assists in this endeavor would have to be so incredibly self-defeating, and so incredibly blinded by his white knight impulses. Simply put, you cannot count on sufficient numbers of men to carry this out, for no species will willingly take actions that result in self-annihilation. Radical feminists can huff and puff and threaten dissenting men with the force of the law, but when the force of the law comes mostly from men then the fascist feminist agenda can only go so far.

It is only the state, run by mostly men, that has protected women so far and has pushed the pro-female agenda forward. Yes, you can have only women in top positions and they can become the sole lawmakers and decision makers but if you go down the power hierarchy you will eventually encounter men and they will have to be willing to play along, at the expense of other men. Seriously, how long do you think half the population can be turned against itself without some sort of backlash? It just will not happen. The end of men and the rise of women is impossible, because it would also mean the end of women. What we have at the moment is merely the tantalizing hint (to some), backed by statistics, that men are on the way down and women are on the way up. But this will eventually hurt women. It just hasn't happened yet. Bubbles take time to burst. When women insist on marrying up while also getting more degrees than men you will eventually run out of road, so to speak. But that's just one example, off the top of my head. Read books by Warren Farrell if you want more examples.

Any woman who has been taught to never need a man should learn to fix her own car, build her own house, do her own repairs, clean her own snow, take away her own garbage, help repair broken roads, help repair broken buildings, and just help keep society running in general. It's an impossible and unrealistic scenario to imagine. Heck, even men need men. So get over it! You need us, and we need you!

Tuesday, December 11, 2012

More On Warren Farrell

One good aspect of the protest against Warren Farrell's talk at the University of Toronto is that it will help guys feel more vindicated about how anti-male this city is. This is not your typical city when it comes to male-female relations. There is definitely something uniquely sinister about how men are collectively viewed by MANY in this city. The angry shrieking venom spitting women in the protest are like a big fat thermometer for how this city views men's issues. The protesters are extremist yes, but the fact is that such a vile protest to Warren Farrell speaking has ONLY happened in Toronto in all his 35-40 years of speaking. The only other protest he experienced at one of his talks had four people in it. The Toronto protest had about 100 people in it. No doubt some of them also participated in the massive tear down campaign of postings notifying people of his speaking event.

He was also scheduled to speak in other nearby local cities like London and Guelph, but those were apparently canceled for lack of interest. However, there were protests being organized for those talks as well, probably near in size to that in Toronto.

As expected, there has been minimal coverage of this in the mainstream media. The closest mainstream news outlet that has talked about this is the Toronto Sun:

http://www.torontosun.com/2012/12/07/shrill-backlash-to-mens-rights-advocate

It figures that only a conservative leaning news outlet would dare talk about this, as more liberal news outlets are too deeply mired in political correctness to dare shed light on men's issues.

The protest at U of T was captured on video. See for yourself what sheer hate and ignorance masquerading as enlightenment looks like.



And now watch a video of the actual talk that Warren gave, and note the HUGE discrepancy between what the protesters were accusing Warren of standing for and what he actually stands for, based on his talk (and everything else he's ever spoken of, which none of the protesters seemed to give a damn about).



I read somewhere that the protesters want the YouTube video removed. I hope they don't succeed, as the vilification and character assassination of the protesters is entirely self-inflicted, and even more importantly, it is pure video evidence of what men's rights are up against in this city. The protesters are just a representation of that. The poster of the video should post this video in as many places as he can.

I've said it before. Most Toronto women are not radical feminists (such as in the protest), but most Toronto women have been influenced by radical feminism. This means that in most Toronto females, especially the attractive ones, you will see varying degrees of man-hatred, entitlement, and the deep personal conviction that they are completely correct to be this way. This last part is most dangerous since it is the sticking point which prevents all other change. No man should try to tough this out. It's better to not waste time and look elsewhere, but ALSO speak out about the problems here.

Monday, December 3, 2012

Reader Submission From Belgium

Introduction

I’m a guy from Belgium, 26 years old. I met my first girlfriend when I was about 22 years old. Before that I didn’t have a lot of success with girls. The fact that I was a little bit of a nerd, who played video games and wore big glasses, probably didn’t help.

The walls in my small study room were completely covered with posters of various games, which I got from tons of game magazines. One day, a friend of mine adviced me to remove them all. When I asked him why he told me that girls wouldn’t like that. So I took them all away and replaced them with artistic posters of landscapes and other boring stuff. This was the first time I threw something away that I truly liked for the only sake of improving my chances with girls.

Discovering PUA

When my first girlfriend broke up with me, I was really devastated. I believed that I had done something terribly wrong which caused the break-up. The relationship only lasted 3 months and I was still a virgin afterwards.

A couple of weeks later a friend introduced me to PUA. I downloaded “the game”, “mystery method”, “double your dating” and some other books, and I absorbed all the material and techniques like a sponge. A whole new world opened up for me. For the first time in my life I would never have to worry about finding a new girlfriend again. And I would never have to worry about losing them again.

I started going out with a positive mindset and a lot off confidence. If a girl were to reject me, it wasn’t my fault. My game just wasn’t perfect yet. If I would have said X instead of Y, she would have given me her number. Somehow, me screwing up wasn’t really “me” screwing up any more.

A couple of months pass. One night, I’m at a club. I start talking to a girl, which by a major coincidence turned out to be one of my new neighbours. She was clearly interested and we exchanged numbers. A couple of days later I had a one night stand with this girl and I lost my virginity.

In the same week, I met another girl in a pub which would become my second girlfriend. She was really attractive. In fact, most people, including my parents, thought she was out of my league. They couldn’t understand why a girl like her would be with me. Off course I was convinced I had everything, including the one night stand, to thank to PUA. And I thought that, if I kept doing everything according to the rules, she would stay attracted and stay with me. But I was wrong.

I did a lot of things in this relationship which I regret today. I wasn’t myself. For example, I would on purpose not invite her somewhere just to send the signal that I’m alpha and that I didn’t really need her. I would never send a text message first. If I responded to a text message, I would think 15 minutes at minimum to send “the best” text back. A text that would convey value. I would always try to be the leader, to choose the pubs where we would meet. I would always drive and pick her up at her house. I would always stay calm, keep my posture. I would set her in her place when I thought it was needed. I did a lot of stuff that I actually didn’t want to do, but which I did because I thought it would keep her attracted to me.

But 3 months later (again) I notice her losing interest. I started to worry. Was this normal? I am staying true to all the concepts of PUA but I feel her slipping away? What do I need to do? My confidence dropped. And not only did she lose interest, but she started acting disrespectful. It became worse every day. But instead of standing up for myself, I was completely focused on what to do to save this, to reset everything back to the way it used to be.

It was no use. I still remember the sad look on her face as she walked in my place. I asked her if she still wanted to be with me and she slowly shaked her head. She said that she lost her feelings and that they would not come back. For me this was my first real relationship and I felt that I blew it, again.

The first weeks after the break up, I handled myself reasonably well. I still believed in PUA, so I would find and seduce another girl soon. However, I was also hurt and confused. I really liked her. I couldn’t understand why she left me. I did everything right.

Discovering John’s Blog

After my second break-up I started bodybuilding. I had a lot of anger in me so I released it in the gym. I completely devoted my time to my training. I would go to work, go home, eat, train and sleep, 5 days in a week, and this for the next year and a half. I added about 34 pounds off muscle.

I didn’t have a new girlfriend during this time. I first wanted to figure out what went wrong in my previous relationships. I was still reading PUA material, but I started to question it’s validity. I googled the words “PUA” and “SCAM” and arrived at John’s blog “lifestyle journey for men: THE PUA SCAM”.

I started reading his blog. He explained all the flaws in the PUA industry and he started to open my eyes. It took me another year before everything clicked together in my head.

Where I am today

I don’t bodybuild as much as before. I noticed that I was heading in the same direction as PUA once again. This time, I wasn’t trying to use some techniques but some muscles to improve my chances with girls. What’s next? A car? Money? Status? I need to stop using some theory or method to get girls. 

We forget that we are born as men. And a heterosexual girl is attracted to men. That’s it. We don’t need to do anything special. The most important ones are in my opinion:
  • Don’t be clingy /needy /desperate

  • Be well groomed

  • Take care of your health

  • Stand up for yourself when needed

  • Don’t let other people or events control your life

  • Do what you are passionate about
This is off course quite normal and general advice, as it should be.

Today I can look back on my past 2 relationships with a completely different mindset. My first girlfriend didn’t leave me because I had done something wrong (even though she made me believe that) but because she simply didn’t want me any more and searched for excuses to leave.

The girl from the one night stand thought I was cute and wanted to have sex. I was at the right time at the right place. It’s all coincidence. I could have said 10 different things and I would have still slept with her

Same can be said about my second girlfriend. She also thought I looked handsome and wanted me. Again coincidence. The fact that I got 2 girls in the same week is still just coincidence. I can’t pull this off every week.

Next week I’m going on a speed-dating event. I don’t expect anything special to happen. I’m just looking forward to having some normal conversations with girls again. We’ll see.

I’m gonna leave you with a thought that I had a couple of weeks ago which IMO should make every PUA believer out there question what they are doing:

People used to believe that doing a certain dance would make it rain. If it would rain a couple of days later then they had proof that the dance worked. If not, they must have done something wrong to piss off the Gods.

Some men now believe that using a certain PUA technique makes them more attractive with girls. If a girl is attracted, then this is proof that PUA works. If not, they must have done something wrong.”